Self esteem...what is it??

One book I was reading says that "Self esteem is what you feel good about yourself" well it may be right but I think its more than that. Its not just about 'feel good' factor. Its about whats right and still feeling good about it. Most of us feel good about ourselves in truimph times.. but seeing the light in the darkness and feeling good about such success is at a different level. So, what is self esteem?

Self respect and self esteem does have similar meaning, but I still need to find the difference. However I think there is a minor difference I have experienced. High self respect sometimes is perceived as 'Ego' or 'Showing Attitude' by others. But Self-esteem is never perceived that way. I might be wrong here, but I think there is a point.

Another book describes that High Selfesteem leads to positive attitude, Success, etc etc. It also makes you able to take criticism the right way and also give criticism tactfully. Sometimes talking out and some times being quite delivers the message.

How does one unleash their self esteem? Making a mark for themselves is the main point. where do you stop, where not to, and where is the limit, can you cross it?? All these questions bind no rules. It is upto each individual to decide that.

Self-esteem is self concpet too. Knowing about your self before you start to feel good. 

A farmer growing watermelons, wantedly puts a small wooden box around one of the melons. What happens? At harvest, every melon grows to its extent, except for this one which comes out to be a small cube shaped melon. Just like that wooden Box, Self-concept is the boundary you put yourself in. A shape in which you think is good for you, but you never know.

Some other attributes of people with self esteem are the ability to take risks, sensitve to others needs, being able to take before giving back criticism, constructive behavior, good relations with every one, etc etc. I know its boring you, but I wanted to write it. I dont know about my own self esteem yet.. but as told before no rules should bind you to explore your self. Follow your heart, Read your mind, listen to the tone and see with in. Enjoy..